How to Overcome the Frustration Barrier
Nothing comes easy in life, and that’s a truth. May be you want to write a book, learn a new skill, lose your weight, change your job, go travel somewhere but if you can’t get it done for some reason you get frustrated. Now the amazing part is, if it’s something you already have an aptitude for, things might come easily, but it’s likely that you’re going to find the learning process to be much harder than you imagined, and you’re going to get frustrated. But, you can’t let the frustration keep you from your end goal, you need to learn how to overcome the frustration.
Below are some practical tips to overcome your frustration and get results what you want.
- Problems aren’t Lasting: Despite the frustration, if you continue to push yourself, you’re going to find you get through things quite quickly. Frustration isn’t a permanent state of being, the key is to ignore it and keep moving, and soon you will find that you accomplished your goal and that’s the best feeling.
- Do Not Compare with Others: You might start to compare yourself with someone who started to learn a new skill at the same time as you did, and you see that that person has picked up that skill faster than you, and you get frustrated thinking that you can’t do it. Just think it other way, everyone has different pace of learning and understanding things, they might have their level of frustrations but you are so different and you need not compare yourself with others. What all you have to do is be happy with your own progress.
- Find Alternatives: Most of the time there are so many different ways of doing things, what all you need to do is try finding a different way to do it. For instance, if you’ve been working on something, such as writing a book, join a different critique club, or just start a new book and you will find a way to finish your first book after a while. The key is do not stop. There’s no shame in using an alternative way to get the results you want after you’ve been struggling with a situation for an extended period of time.
- Learn to Love the Process: Always remember that life is about the journey, not the end result. The next time you decide to learn something new, don’t get so caught up in the idea of being a success and mastering whatever skill you want to develop. Instead focus on each stage and love thelearning This takes the self-inflicted pressure off you, reducing the amount of frustration you experience in the journey towards your goal achievement.
- Consistency: When you are trying to develop a new habit, consistency is more significant than quantity. Have you noticed that when we skip a routine activity even once, for example missing your bus and then taking a cab to reach to your destination, or waking up at 5:00 in the morning, and once you skip it and wake up at 7 and still manage to do your work, it’ll be harder to get back into it? And the more we skip, the easier it is to skip it again the next time. Before we know it, we no longer have the habit which we’ve worked hard to create.
- Fun Ingredient: Find ways to make the learning and experience fun and enjoyable. For example, you can listen to music when you are on a mission to reduce your weight through doing gym. This added enrichment to the gym experience, makes you look forward to the activity.
Also published on Medium.